Praying for your husband is one of the best things you can do for him and your marriage. It will also help you to be a better wife as you spend time thinking about and praying about what it takes for him to be a good husband.
- Pray for his salvation, if he’s not a believer. This trumps everything else!
- Pray for his spiritual growth. A godly man will be a godly husband. Use specific verses to pray for him. For example, pray 2 Peter 1: 5-7: For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.
- Pray for his prayer life. A vibrant prayer life probably means he’s praying for you, too! Who doesn’t want that? A vibrant prayer life also means he’s drawing closer to the Lord – and that is even better!
- Pray for his time in the Word – that it would be protected and fruitful. A man who ignores the Word in his daily life will not be a strong believer, leader, or husband. Pray he’ll listen to and heed the voice of the Spirit as he reads the Word.
- Prayer for his role in the church. Is he a teacher? A leader of one sort or another? Does he serve in the parking lot? The nursery? Children’s ministry? Wherever he serves, pray for that ministry and his role in it.
- Pray for opportunity and boldness to share the gospel message. Pray for yourself, also, to be a partner with him in sharing the message of Jesus.
- Pray for his friendships. Like women, men need godly friendships to strengthen their faith (Proverbs 27:17). But unlike women, they don’t always like to admit it or seek out friendships. Pray that the Lord will bring the right men across his path.
- Pray for the battle in his mind – and yes, he has one. Pray that his thoughts will all be ‘taken captive’ (2 Corinthians 10:5) to the will of Christ. Pray he will not focus his mind on earthly, sensual things, but on heavenly (Colossians 3:2).
- Pray for his career. Maybe he’s stuck in a job he detests – he needs your prayers to sustain him until things change. Maybe he’s out of a job – he needs your prayers to guide him. Maybe he’s in the perfect job – he still needs your prayers to maintain the correct balance between family and work.
- Pray for growth in his career. Men generally like a challenge. If your husband has a career where there is an opportunity for growth, pray he’ll rise to the challenge. It will be good for him to conquer some big goals.
- Pray for his physical health – even if he seems perfectly healthy, he needs protection in this area. He may also need growth in this area. His physical health, or lack, directly affects you and your family, so pray for physical health, and healing when necessary.
- Pray for wisdom. He’ll need wisdom to effectively handle finances, parenting, career, and marriage. He’ll need wisdom to guide him in making big decisions and small ones.
- Pray for his role as a father (Ephesians 6:4). He needs to be loving, fun, firm, and approachable. He needs to be confident in letting his children know he loves them, able to relax and play with them, but also able to lay down the law as needed.
- Pray for his relationship with his family – parents if they are still living, siblings, even extended family. How to pray in this area will largely be determined by his relationship with them and if they are saved.
- Pray for his relationship with you. Your relationship is the foundation, after the Lord, of a steady marriage and solid home. Don’t be shy in praying about problem areas in your marriage, whether it’s parenting differences, arguments over chores, or issues in the bedroom. God knows already (Psalm 139), so bring it all to Him.
- Pray for his wife – yes, YOU! Pray you’ll be the wife he needs, not the one you want him to need. Pray that you’ll be faithful in praying for him over the long haul, not just a once-and-done pray-er. Pray that you will be a faithful wife, supporting him and encouraging him, and not focused on only what he can get from him.
- Pray that he will always be faithful to his marriage vows and you. While you’re at it, pray that you’ll be faithful to him. There will always be temptations for spouses to stray; protect your marriage with prayer.
- Pray for unity in your marriage. Unity does not mean uniformity – he doesn’t have to be exactly like you – but it does mean that you agree on the things that are most important.
- Pray for your sex life (Hebrews 13:4). I’ve heard it said that the devil does all he can to get you into bed together before you’re married, and everything he can to keep you out of bed after you’re married. Intimacy in marriage is vital to a healthy relationship, so pray for it.
- Pray for the unknown future. None of us knows what the future will hold, but we know who holds the future. A cliché? Yes, but true nonetheless. Pray that the future for both of you would be in following Jesus closely.
I started thinking about this post a while ago, planning to have 31 items to pray for your spouse, one for each day of the month. As I got into writing, however, my own failures in this area began to change my plans. There was a time in our marriage, when I wasn’t sure our marriage would last, that I prayed daily for my husband. I used Stormie Omartian’s book, The Power of a Praying Wife, and I prayed hard. But the truth is that for most of my marriage, I haven’t prayed as hard or as consistently as I did at that time. If I had 31 days of prayers, I would’ve been discouraged when I ‘fell behind.’
So, I thought, what if I just had 4 weeks of prayers – with some catch-up days built in? So that’s what you have here (and on the printable you can snag for signing up for my newsletter). Four weeks of 5-days-a-week prayer – that equal 20 prayers. Any order is fine, just be faithful in praying consistently. And on the ‘off days?’ If you don’t need them to catch up – pray Scripture for your husband, whatever Scripture you’re currently studying. You can get a printable PDF of these 20 Ways to Pray for Your Husband, just for signing up on my email list.
In the future, I will be having a 20-prayers-for-your-children list and a 20-prayers-for-yourself list. Stay tuned.