I started this occasional series with 20 Ways to Pray for Your Husband. I believe a strong marriage is the basis for strong parenting. Of course, that in no way means that single parents cannot be good parents. But, if you’re married and a parent, then you and your spouse need to be praying for each other and building each other up in order to have a good foundation for strong parenting skills.
One of the best parenting skills you can adopt is to pray for your child or children regularly. I have prayed for mine since they were infants, and now they have families of their own! Some seasons I prayed more, some seasons I prayed, “Let me survive and not kill them!” But I prayed – and that’s what mattered, and still matters today.
So, here are 20 suggestions on how to pray for your child or children. These suggestions are not limited to your natural or adopted children but could be prayed for your grandchildren, your nieces and nephews, your sponsored children, your mentored children, children in your classroom, children of friends, or your children’s friends. Perhaps in your Faith Journal, you could dedicate a day a week to all the children in your life, and pray through five of these topics per week, then start over. Use your imagination, and pray!
- Pray for their salvation. Nothing is as important as their salvation. “I have no greater joy than to know that my children are walking in the truth.” 3 John 1:4
- Pray for their parents (you!). The influence of parents on children cannot be overstated. Pray that God will keep you faithful to Him, and give you wisdom in parenting. Ephesians 6:4
- Pray for their attitude towards obedience. A child that will not obey his/her parents will have a hard time obeying the LORD. 1 Samuel 15:22
- Pray for their school teachers, school work, and intellectual growth. School is a big part of their lives; be sure to cover it with prayer. If you homeschool, you can still pray that he/she will learn and grow in understanding and wisdom. Luke 2:52
- Pray for their friends. Pray that your child will make friends that will build his/her faith, not tear it down. Proverbs 13:20
- Pray for their growth in spiritual disciplines. As they age, have your children practice the spiritual disciplines of memorization, daily devotions, corporate and personal prayer, and giving. 2 Timothy 3:15-16
- Pray for their future spouse and marriage commitment. Pray that each will marry a fellow believer. Pray their marriage will strengthen their faith, and that they will each remain faithful. Pray that the right person at the right time will cross their paths. 2 Corinthians 6:14
- Pray for them to develop the gifts, talents, and abilities God has given them. Pray that the gifts and abilities God has given each will be used for His glory. Proverbs 22:6
- Pray for their future career path. Pray that each child will learn diligence, perseverance, and vision, as these attributes among many others will make their future careers more pleasant and productive. Proverbs 12:14
- Pray for God to use them greatly. Commit your children to the Lord and ask Him to use them for His kingdom. 1 Samuel 1:27-28
- Pray for protection from danger. We can never know all the situations that our children may face, but God knows, and we can always ask Him to guide and protect them as they go through their days. Psalm 91:15
- Pray for their protection from peer pressure. As with praying for their friends, you should pray for the influence their friends have on them. Peers can exert a strong influence on each other. Pray that your child will be the influencer, not the influenced! 1 Corinthians 15:33
- Pray for their sexual and mental purity. In this culture, mental and sexual purity are hard-fought prizes. Pray that their minds are protected from images and sounds that would cause them to stumble. Pray that they will discipline themselves to be holy. Psalm 101:3; 1 Corinthians 9:24-27
- Pray for a protection from a consumerist mindset. This is vital in our consumerist culture. Philippians 4:11-12; 1 Timothy 6:6-8
- Pray for a spirit of generosity. God expects His people to be generous with the time, abilities, and possessions. Train them early to be generous, and pray that the message sticks. 2 Corinthians 9:6-8
- Pray for them to have appropriate respect for people in their lives, including you, their parents. Respect should be shown to all people in authority over them: pastors, teachers, principals, police officers, parents & grandparents, and adults in general. Leviticus 9:32; 19:3
- Pray for a spirit of love and compassion towards others, especially those who are different, or from a different culture. God does not play favorites; His love, grace, and redemption are freely extended to all people everywhere. We should strive for not less in our lives and the lives of our children. Acts 10:34; James 2:1-9
- Pray for strength of character and courage. Daniel is a great example of this for us, of whom it was said no fault could be found. Therefore, his enemies devised a plan to fault his reverence for God – and even then he was faithful and courageous. Pray for your child to be a Daniel. Daniel 6:4, 10
- Pray for physical health. Physical health is of less importance than spiritual health, but it is important that our bodies are as healthy as possible, so that we – and our children – can serve and worship the Lord wholeheartedly. 3 John 1:2
- Pray for siblings and other family members (cousins, grandparents, etc.). Pray they will be faithful believers, setting a good example for your children. Pray for their salvation, if they are not saved. Pray for good relationships that will enhance their lives. Joshua 24:15